melinda gates’ golden rules

the good stuff from a woman who walks her talk…

1. Trust yourself. This is the most important thing. Everybody has an inner truth and if you learn how to listen to it, you’ll be happier in everything you do.

2. Make time for quiet self-reflection. There are distractions everywhere, and you need to connect with nature and quiets truths to live a meaningful, balanced life.

3. Cultivate great friends and keep them close. Tell them what you’re learning and what you’re excited about, and they’ll do the same for you.

4. Be a lifelong learner. Learn new topics. Take up new hobbies. Revisit a subject you thought you learned in school. You will be amazed at what you don’t know and what the world holds in store.

5. Broaden your world view. I didn’t know anything about half of the world until I was in my early thirties. I’ve spent the last 20 years filling in that gap and its one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done.

6. Connect deeply with others. Our humanity is the one thing that we all have in common.

7. Get a good night’s sleep! I’m talking about eight hours. And while you’re at it, exercise. Your mind and body need it.

8. Laugh aloud as often as possible. Laugh with others. Laugh at yourself. However you laugh, do it with abandon.

9. Teach your children your values – don’t just teach them how to tie their shoes and do multiplication tables. Teach them how to think about the important things in life.

10. Read books with your friends and family and talk about them. You learn and grow more when you do it within a community.

{source: Porter Magazine, Winter 2014}

Don’t wait for your Oscar. Don’t wait to be praised, anointed, or validated. Don’t wait for someone to give you permission to lead. Don’t wait for someone to invite you to share your voice. No one is going to discover you. {Well, actually, they will, but paradoxically, only after you’ve started boldly and consistently stepping into leadership, sharing your voice, and doing things that scare the hell out of you}

 

—Tara Mohr

hard question of the month: are you willing to change to get what you want?

 

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I’m not a businessman,
I’m a business, man!

― Jay Z

what attractive people do differently

{this post is based on Inc.com article titled 9 Things Incredibly Attractive People Do Differently, I hate the title but the content was good so here it is with the AM™ remix – link to original article below}

1. They smile…a lot.

Many of us walk around grim-faced with all of our life’s stresses mapped across our face; what if we thought more like an optimist or focused on the things we have to be grateful about? Smiling is contagious and also affects your bio-chemistry in a positive way. Joy is attractive. Start with your smile.

2. They dress to kill.

“Dressing well doesn’t require a lot of money, but it does require a bit of thought and attention. Incredibly attractive people are fashion conscious not due to vanity but because they know that clothing can set the right mood and tone. They know when to dress it up or take it casual to fit the appropriate environment…Wear fashion proudly and people will notice.”

3. They are careful about what comes out of their mouths.

Just try not to say stupid things and talk to much. We spend so much time trying to sound interesting and smart that we forget to simply take interest in the people around us. Listen. Pay attention. Ask questions.
“Mystery and attraction go together.”

4. They are careful about what goes in their mouths.

“Incredibly attractive people manage their bodies.” Health is important. Making health a priority makes you attractive. Be sure to eat foods that are complementary to your goals, your performance and your commitment to excellence. “Bad habits such as gum, cigarettes and too much alcohol can knock attractiveness down quickly, even though people won’t say anything. Don’t let over indulgence and poor choices get in the way of the respect people should have for you.”

5. They listen.

“Many people are preoccupied with themselves and what’s on their own mind. So when someone genuinely shows interest in another and listens, they immediately strengthen their connection with that person. I have personally become closer with a mere acquaintance through sharing an important story. Incredibly attractive people have mastered the art of listening.” Also see #3.

6. They learn.

“There is no question that smart is sexy and ignorance is ugly. Incredibly attractive people know you don’t have to be a brainiac to maintain admiration, but it helps to be aware of current events and develop your mind. Dedicate an hour a day to making yourself smarter.” The facts are successful people never stop learning and they are always reading. Not watching TV or scrolling through social media – READING non-fiction {business, personal development, health, languages}!!!

7. They take care of themselves

“It’s difficult to be around people who neglect themselves. It’s often a clear sign of low self-esteem. Incredibly attractive people hold themselves in high regard. They are strong in self-confidence and care about their bodies. They enjoy life and want to be around for as long as possible. Make your own body a priority. You don’t have to be a perfect specimen, but good health and maintenance go a long way to show people that you matter.” As a holistic wellness maven, I can tell you that your degree of self-love shows up in your commitment to self-care and that tells people everything. Send the right message.

8. They take care of others

“A generous spirit is a huge attractor.” The purpose of life is to give. Period. Service is the highest form of success.

9. They make others feel attractive as well.

“Each person you meet brings something special to your world. Make sure you enhance theirs with the best you have to offer.”

{for the original article by Kevin Daum click HERE}

epic motivation for 2015

I love these videos that people take time to make for the sole purpose of motivating others…generous.

hard question of the month: what will you do to make this your best year ever?

 

{original share by my personal trainer Anne Matthews}

…but I also know that I’m superior to you in something else.

I know how to create a process to achieve things, and I never, ever give up.

That makes us equal.

 

—Anthony Robbins

things successful people never say

{from yahoo small business advisor, Entrepreneur section, You’ll Never Hear Successful People Say These 15 Things by Sujan Patel}
Our language says a lot about our state of mind; are we on track for success? are we feeling motivated? are we willing to do what it takes? All of these questions get answered in the way we express ourselves. Successful people know this; they are conscious of  how they speak, what they say and the impact their words have on everything. Words have power. They can limit or they can ignite. Your words can make the difference between winning or losing. That’s good news {if used wisely}.

Herewith, 12 things successful people never say:

1. We can’t do that. actually everything is possible all the time {that’s the mindset you maintain to get and stay ahead}.

2. I don’t know how. this answer is not acceptable in business; figure out how or find someone who can do it but do not come to a grinding halt.

3. I don’t know what that is. much like #2, a simple “but I’ll find out” can make all the difference.

4. I did everything on my own. never say that unless it is absolutely true; always be mindful of all the things and people that help you make it happen.

5. That’s too early. nope, there is no such thing when it comes to networking or when you are granted an important meeting.

6. That’s too late. see #5

7. It’s too bad we couldn’t work together. don’t use this sentence unless it is really true and in that case, you should make something work because good people are hard to find.

8. Let’s catch up sometime. if you actually want to catch up with the person you will set a date. period.

9. I’m sorry, I’m too busy. who isn’t busy? if it matters – just do what it takes. if it doesn’t – say a polite no and move on.

10. I never read books. 63% of wealthy people read non-fiction books vs. 5% of poor people {I’m sure there’s more to that statistic but the difference is too staggering to ignore; consider it}.

11. I’m not good enough. that is only true if you want it to be, otherwise you can decide to have a high sense of self worth and live accordingly.

12. Time off is for suckers. as a wellness maven, I have to tell you that not resting and not having fun is just silly. if you are not happy and healthy than no amount of success will be worth it. priorities.

{for the original article go here}

Watch your words friends. You are powerful.

am.xo

 

hard question of the month: are you mistaking activity for achievement?

motivated mondays: your life inch by inch

{warning: explicit language} 

hard question of the month: what exactly are you waiting for?

People who lack the clarity, courage, or determination to follow their own dreams will often find ways to discourage yours. When you change for the better, the people around you will be inspired to change also….but only after doing their best to make you stop.

 

 

― Steve Maraboli

5 ways you are making your life harder than it has to be

{excerpted from the article 18 Ways You’re Making Your Life Harder Than It Has To Be…I picked these 5 because I believe they have the greatest impact on our potential}
  1. You let others make you feel guilty for living your life
  2. You’re trying to compete with everyone else.
  3. You focus on every point in time other than now.
  4. You put off making decisions.
  5. You allow toxic people to get the best of you.

You can see that most of these ways involve our interactions with other people. It is so important to curate the people you spend most of your time with…the old Jim Rohn quote is true…

“you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”

…choose wisely. Ease up your life a bit.

for the other 13 ways go here

am.xo

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