What you really believe about the source of great performance thus becomes the foundation of all you will ever achieve.

― Geoff Colvin

how to become famous, part 1

{I admit, I am really late to the Robin Sharma game but these tips* are epic…} 

1. Model the mindsets, habits and behaviors of the people performing at the level you want to play at. Surround yourself with as many world-class experts in your field as you can possibly network with.

2. Teach your craft. As you share what you’re learning about in your area of expertise, it deepens your understanding. And heightens your awareness.

3. Fail as quickly as you can. Each time you stumble, study the data, recalibrate and iterate your next move. Do this daily and you’ll see steady gains in your performance standards.

4. Become monomaniacally focused on knowing all there is to know about one or two things. The secret to Mastery is concentration of attention. Period.

5. Read. It’s something too few people do on a daily basis. Reading collapses learning time–and allows the brilliance of the best to rub off on your thinking.

6. Get a mentor. I’ve had a number of key mentors in my life and watching them show up at peak was a game-changer. You just can’t reach your personal Everest without some help.

7. Practice insane amounts of hours. Anders Ericsson is the world’s pre-eminent researcher on exceptional performance. His research {popularized by Malcolm Gladwell} showed that it takes 10,000 hours of deliberate practice to make an expert. Put in the time and out will come the expert.

8. Go to your edges. Elite athletes, violinists, writers and chess players all do the same thing: every day they have specific times that they push their skills to the edge. And by relentlessly pushing their talents past what’s comfortable, their talents quickly expand.

9. Play to win versus playing to avoid failing. Experts have a tendency to pursue their idealized image of excellence while average performers behave in a way designed to avoid making mistakes. Big difference.

10. Remember that things you once found hard you now find easy. You are built to grow, to flourish and to adapt to new standards.

for part 2 go HERE

*edited tips; for the full article + more useful tips + tools from Robin Sharma, click HERE.

hard question of the month: are you still trying to please others?

forget about likeability, it’s not serving you

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s words on likeability struck a chord for me…

I hope they speak to you as well.

“I think that what our society teaches young girls, and I think it’s also something that’s quite difficult for even older women and self-professed feminists to shrug off, is that idea that likability is an essential part of you, of the space you occupy in the world, that you’re supposed to twist yourself into shapes to make yourself likable that you’re supposed to hold back sometimes, pull back, don’t quite say, don’t be too pushy because you have to be likable.

And I say that’s bullshit.

So what I want to say to young girls is forget about likability. If you start thinking about being likable you are not going to tell your story honestly, because you are going to be so concerned with not offending, and that’s going to ruin your story so forget about likability. And also the world is such a wonderful, diverse and multifaceted place that there’s somebody who’s going to like you, you don’t need to twist yourself into shapes.”

 

hard question of the month: are you a woman who lifts or carries?

F*ck “try.”
Trying is an open invitation to failure,
just another way of saying,
“If I fail, it’s not my fault, I tried.”
…success is the result of knowing what to do, the willingness to do it, and
the drive to continually improve at it.

― Tim S. Grover

how to give a presentation: advice from anthony robbins

{ok, he didn’t give me the advice personally but you know how much I love the guy so I don’t think he’ll mind}

In the 2014 Advice Issue of Fortune Magazine, Anthony Robbins is featured as the CEO whisperer; it’s a great title but for me he’ll always be a life whisperer – his book Unlimited Power changed my life when I was 17. No one had told me that I was, or could be, the master of my fate. To learn, at such a young age, that by taking a proactive approach to life and business I could improve my odds of becoming successful was invaluable. The book shaped the way I made decisions and cultivated a sense of self-worth in me that was unavailable from external sources. Anthony Robbins taught me that I had the power to create my own path and validate my own pass. SAY WORD.

Robbins’ Rules: How to Give a Presentation
Five tips for engaging a crowd like Tony.

1 DO YOUR HOMEWORK

“My first thing in preparing for a presentation,” says Robbins, “is you’ve got to know your audience and what their deepest needs are, their deepest desires, and their deepest concerns. That’s more important than anything else. You have to carve your message and really make sure that it’s going to hit the mark for who you’re speaking with. So I usually do quite a bit of homework in advance, and I have a team of people who also do homework. You can’t add value until you know their needs.”

2 RESPECT YOUR AUDIENCE

“It’s not enough just to know your audience. You’ve got to honestly respect them too. You can’t influence someone you’re judging. So when I sit down and do the slides, I think, ‘Who’s in this audience? What do I respect about them? What do I appreciate about them?’ That gives me a connection with them that I—and they­—can feel.”

3 GO DEEP QUICKLY

“The next question is to ask, ‘How am I going to engage them from the very beginning—to quickly get to what matters to them?’ And to engage other people, you’ve got to be engaged. One way to engage is with shock. Or entertainment. But I think, ‘Let’s engage with the truth. Let’s go for what’s real and raw.’”

4 KNOW YOUR OUTCOME

“You need an outline of what you want to do, but the key is to know your outcome. I pick outcomes that I’m passionate about. I don’t think anyone should ever speak about anything they’re not passionate about. If you’re not passionate about something, no one else is going to be, and you’re wasting everyone’s time.”

5 EMBRACE SPONTANEITY

“Some people clearly need a sequence in their presentation to be able to function, and I understand that. But you also have to be able to flex so that you can be real and in the moment. People are starving for spontaneity. Everybody’s sick of watching somebody do a PowerPoint. I mean, it’s just absurd.”

for the whole article, click here

hard question of the month: can you stop gossiping about other women?

melinda gates’ golden rules

the good stuff from a woman who walks her talk…

1. Trust yourself. This is the most important thing. Everybody has an inner truth and if you learn how to listen to it, you’ll be happier in everything you do.

2. Make time for quiet self-reflection. There are distractions everywhere, and you need to connect with nature and quiets truths to live a meaningful, balanced life.

3. Cultivate great friends and keep them close. Tell them what you’re learning and what you’re excited about, and they’ll do the same for you.

4. Be a lifelong learner. Learn new topics. Take up new hobbies. Revisit a subject you thought you learned in school. You will be amazed at what you don’t know and what the world holds in store.

5. Broaden your world view. I didn’t know anything about half of the world until I was in my early thirties. I’ve spent the last 20 years filling in that gap and its one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done.

6. Connect deeply with others. Our humanity is the one thing that we all have in common.

7. Get a good night’s sleep! I’m talking about eight hours. And while you’re at it, exercise. Your mind and body need it.

8. Laugh aloud as often as possible. Laugh with others. Laugh at yourself. However you laugh, do it with abandon.

9. Teach your children your values – don’t just teach them how to tie their shoes and do multiplication tables. Teach them how to think about the important things in life.

10. Read books with your friends and family and talk about them. You learn and grow more when you do it within a community.

{source: Porter Magazine, Winter 2014}

Don’t wait for your Oscar. Don’t wait to be praised, anointed, or validated. Don’t wait for someone to give you permission to lead. Don’t wait for someone to invite you to share your voice. No one is going to discover you. {Well, actually, they will, but paradoxically, only after you’ve started boldly and consistently stepping into leadership, sharing your voice, and doing things that scare the hell out of you}

 

—Tara Mohr

hard question of the month: are you willing to change to get what you want?

 

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I’m not a businessman,
I’m a business, man!

― Jay Z

what attractive people do differently

{this post is based on Inc.com article titled 9 Things Incredibly Attractive People Do Differently, I hate the title but the content was good so here it is with the AM™ remix – link to original article below}

1. They smile…a lot.

Many of us walk around grim-faced with all of our life’s stresses mapped across our face; what if we thought more like an optimist or focused on the things we have to be grateful about? Smiling is contagious and also affects your bio-chemistry in a positive way. Joy is attractive. Start with your smile.

2. They dress to kill.

“Dressing well doesn’t require a lot of money, but it does require a bit of thought and attention. Incredibly attractive people are fashion conscious not due to vanity but because they know that clothing can set the right mood and tone. They know when to dress it up or take it casual to fit the appropriate environment…Wear fashion proudly and people will notice.”

3. They are careful about what comes out of their mouths.

Just try not to say stupid things and talk to much. We spend so much time trying to sound interesting and smart that we forget to simply take interest in the people around us. Listen. Pay attention. Ask questions.
“Mystery and attraction go together.”

4. They are careful about what goes in their mouths.

“Incredibly attractive people manage their bodies.” Health is important. Making health a priority makes you attractive. Be sure to eat foods that are complementary to your goals, your performance and your commitment to excellence. “Bad habits such as gum, cigarettes and too much alcohol can knock attractiveness down quickly, even though people won’t say anything. Don’t let over indulgence and poor choices get in the way of the respect people should have for you.”

5. They listen.

“Many people are preoccupied with themselves and what’s on their own mind. So when someone genuinely shows interest in another and listens, they immediately strengthen their connection with that person. I have personally become closer with a mere acquaintance through sharing an important story. Incredibly attractive people have mastered the art of listening.” Also see #3.

6. They learn.

“There is no question that smart is sexy and ignorance is ugly. Incredibly attractive people know you don’t have to be a brainiac to maintain admiration, but it helps to be aware of current events and develop your mind. Dedicate an hour a day to making yourself smarter.” The facts are successful people never stop learning and they are always reading. Not watching TV or scrolling through social media – READING non-fiction {business, personal development, health, languages}!!!

7. They take care of themselves

“It’s difficult to be around people who neglect themselves. It’s often a clear sign of low self-esteem. Incredibly attractive people hold themselves in high regard. They are strong in self-confidence and care about their bodies. They enjoy life and want to be around for as long as possible. Make your own body a priority. You don’t have to be a perfect specimen, but good health and maintenance go a long way to show people that you matter.” As a holistic wellness maven, I can tell you that your degree of self-love shows up in your commitment to self-care and that tells people everything. Send the right message.

8. They take care of others

“A generous spirit is a huge attractor.” The purpose of life is to give. Period. Service is the highest form of success.

9. They make others feel attractive as well.

“Each person you meet brings something special to your world. Make sure you enhance theirs with the best you have to offer.”

{for the original article by Kevin Daum click HERE}

epic motivation for 2015

I love these videos that people take time to make for the sole purpose of motivating others…generous.

hard question of the month: what will you do to make this your best year ever?

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